Bridal Shower Etiquette - “Who should host the party?”
Traditionally, the maid or matron of honor hosts the party. In some cases family members, bride’s maids or close girl friends will do the hosting so make sure the communication is there. Never let the bride host her own party!
“What should be included on a bridal shower invitation?”
“What time frame is proper etiquette for hosting a bridal shower?”
Most would say anywhere from a two month to two weeks before the wedding. When mailing invitations you will need to do it no less than a month prior to the bridal shower so guests have time to respond to the RSVP.
[/one-half-first][one-half]When choosing a theme for the wedding shower, select one that reflects the personality and interests of the bride. Here are some examples we’ve done for our bridal shower invitations from top to bottom.
Jennifer Vigor-Kalm’s goldfish bridal shower invitation was themed after brides name Melissa Fisher and grooms Jon Goldman. She also had a menu themed after the bridal invitation for the restaurant where the bridal shower was held with choices of what entrees they could choose from!
Hailey Kandell’s sushi themed invitation for Sara Little makes a bold yet chic announcement. This invitation has it all! With a full color two-sided pocket that holds the RSVP reply card and envelope. Even the envelopes are tastefully printed from the flower design on the main envelope to the reply envelope with chopsticks. Not only is this theme colorful and youthful, it’s the very essence of femininity.
Julian McKeon's Fiesta theme relayed a relaxed get together with a southwestern buffet lunch.
Ann Jager’s invitation for Alyson Garff was a traditional themed invite focused on incorporating her wedding colors keeping a flow throughout her invitation suite.
Kimberlee Sirstins' invitation is a great example where multiple family members come together to host the bridal shower. The details of layers and clean lines make for a beautiful classy invitation![/one-half][one-half-first]Hailey Kandell’s invitation for Sarah Klothorr indicates a more formal dinner party with her details for cocktail attire. The invitation itself is gorgeous down to the last detail. With the layering on an elegant wrap and champagne ribbon, it really captures the mood for the occasion.
Rachel Francis' invites for Kate Feinstein is a fun and more modern invitation with an additional teaser of the upcoming Bachelorette party. Fun side note: Rachel has gone from bridesmaid to one of our current brides!
With a few good guidelines you can create the perfect bridal shower for your bride to be![/one-half-first][one-half][/one-half]
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Today's post answers the ever-burning question, "When should I send my save the dates, invitations, thank you's, etc?"
My first answer to that question is, "Well, it depends." I realize this probably isn't the answer you wanted to hear, but read on!
I say, "It depends," because every wedding is different. Some are formal (think black tie events), some are very laid back and casual (think backyard wedding with barbecue to follow). The coolest part about it is that your wedding can be a reflection of you. The nature of your wedding is really what dictates your wedding correspondence to begin with, along with the timing of sending it out. That being said, I'll give you the guidelines for what etiquette encourages, and then you can custom tailor your own timing around the nature of your event.
Here at Ann Elizabeth, we recommend sending your Save the Dates out six months to a year in advance.
This recommendation is with your out-of-state guests in mind; you want to give them as much notice as possible so they can plan travel and lodging.
If you still have questions, check out my in-depth post about Save the Dates and see if your questions aren't answered there. If not, you're welcome to email me at dana [at] annelizabeth dot com and I'd be happy to help you out.
It's best to mail your invitations around 6 weeks prior to your event, which would mean starting your wedding invitations 10-14 weeks before your big day. You may think this is a huge chunk of time, but believe you me: it will FLY by! It's important to make sure you give yourself enough time. Personally, I'd rather have more time than not enough.
If you are including an RSVP with your invitation, tack on 2 weeks to the "6 weeks prior" deadline I just mentioned and make it 8 weeks. You'll want to set the "RSVP by..." date a couple weeks prior to your wedding to give yourself some time to get everything organized and your numbers down solid.
My Grandma always used to say, "Gratitude is the best attitude." And how right she is! Get those thank you notes into the hands of your beloved guests as soon as you can, but no later than your 2 month anniversary. They'll be happy and so will you.
I hope this helps you feel better about the timing of when your wedding correspondence should be sent. Until next time!
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